For background my parents and I (f21) moved from south Korea to America when I was 13. Both my parents are Korean too.
My boyfriend (m22) and I have been dating for 6 months. We go to college together, my family lives in the same city that our college is, his family however lives in another city so I haven't had the chance to met them until now. His parents invited us to spend the weekend over at their house so they can met me, up until now I have only spoke a few times on the phone with his parents but not with his siblings.
He has three siblings. An older brother (25), sister (13) and brother (9).
The problem with his sister is that apparently she's a kpop fan. My boyfriend had already told me this prior to meeting her and he told me to get "ready". I thought that meant that she would ask me to say something in Korean or something like that (it has happened to me before even by strangers in the street, it's annoying). Well, first things first she greeted me with an "hello" in korean, I faked a laugh and greeted her too.
It wouldn't have been such a deal if that was it, but then she continued calling me "unnie" and asking me if I called my boyfriend "oppa" and such things. She then started asking where did I lived when I was in Korea, if I had met any idols, if I ever tried to be an idol myself, etc. She insisted on sitting next to me and she was taking photos of me eating because "I looked like an idol". Like, what does that even mean? I'm just trying to eat, her mother had to tell her to stop because I was very visibly uncomfortable. After eating she wanted me to go dance some kpop choreographies with her because you know, every Korean knows how to dance I guess. We stayed there over the weekend so it was two days of not stop of this kind of behavior.
I was so glad when it was time to leave. As soon as we pulled out the driveway I told my boyfriend "you were not kidding, your sister is worse than I imagined" he laughed and said it was "expected" of her to act like this. So I told him "so she's always this racist huh?" He took offense on that, he told me that his sister wasn't racist at all, she was only excited to met me. I said that all she did during our visit was to make assumptions about me and talk to me in a racist way (like c'mon, calling me unnie when she doesn't even know the context of the word has to be racist for Americans too right?).
Now he's mad at me, I am mad at him too for not understanding my side too. So who's right?