Hi y'all, so my ex and I dated for almost 4 years. Towards the end of our relationship we got a lil puppy together and moved in, 2 weeks later we broke up.
I've had a myriad of health of health issues throughout the duration of our relationship, which admittedly he's had to give up a lot of plans and time to help me, some financial but mostly time.
In January I got diagnosed with stage 2 ovarian cancer and was promptly let go from my job due to missing days and stuff. Since then he's been paying most of the rent and bills due to me waiting on my sickness benefits. I've always been really appreciative and have never asked him to take care of me after our breakup.
On Friday, I had a biopsy done which admittedly took more energy than I thought. He left to go to the city that same morning and I was left alone with our dog, even though he told me he'd be home early in the night - he came home at 12 am and I got stuck in our backyard for almost 20 mins due to the snow trapping the door. I was not in a great shape.
Yesterday, he went out again and I was left with our dog having told him I was okay with it as long as he's not away for too long. My condition changed and I was very sick, had trouble getting up and couldn't even feed her let alone take her out. I was calling and texting him asking him to come home a bit earlier because I couldn't take care of her. He told me to call my mom cuz it'd take him over an hour to reach our place. It was around 4:30 pm. I fell asleep and woke up to our dog crying and I asked him again to please come back because I couldn't do it.
I talked to him about it this morning, asking that if he goes out to please find someone to take care of her in the meanwhile because it's not fair to leave her with me, as I'm not in a capacity to fully be alone with her. He accused me of guilt tripping him and essentially trying to control him because last night I got up after he came home to make tea but couldn't get up to take her out.
I feel like I'm not in the wrong here but I fear I may be depending on him too much, so Reddit AITA?