My gf (28F) and I (28M) are both software engineers. I am a full stack developer and she was a graphics and AR VR developer.
Ever since college, my gf has always liked to embellish her career aspirations. She made it sound like web development was beneath her, and that because she went to college to a fancy school and then got a masters. My take on this is that, you can self learn almost anything these days and there are tutorials and onlin resources for almost any programming language and library you need.
When she was in college she would obsessively talk about FAANG (facebook, apple, amazon, netflix google) and get internships at those companies. She would insist that very few companies do the type of things she wants to do and it had to be a select few companies only.
I got interviews at those companies and never got in and I feel like she felt superior to me because of it. But the thing is, it is easier for women since they have quotas about wanting to hire x % of women. She eventually worked at 2 of these companies after graduation and would constantly talk about how great FAANG is and the perks etc. She herself now admits this, now that she conducts interviews for her company.
Recently with layoffs going on, and tech stocks being down she was nervous. I advised her to switch to another company or learn full stack as there are many jobs in that, but she made it sound like it was beneath her. Full stack is not beneath her or easy, it is just that more people do it because there are more jobs and they pay decent.
She recently just got layed off and told me, I guess hearing about FaAnG and how what she does is so specialized and only done by top engineers and how she has a masters got to me and I laughed and said something like how do you like FAANG now?
She got angry at me and called me an AH. The thing is it is not like she is in a bad situation, she got an excellent severance package and has more than enough time to depend on that and her savings to find another job, so I don't feel it is like she got layed of without severance or something. Of course after that I did all the sorry to hear, hope you find another job stuff but she is still pissed at me.