Me (21 F) and my fiancé (20 M) are expecting our first child together (I have a 2yo from a previous relationship). I was super excited when I found out that we were going to be having a little girl, and the first thing that I did was talk to my fiancé about baby names. My fiancé wanted to name her Lilly because those were his late mother’s favorite flowers. After some discussion between us he agreed to the name Lilith (we are using Lilly as a nickname) because while I liked the name Lilly it just didn’t seem like the right name for our daughter. My fiancé likes that Lilith sounds like Lilly and that Lilly can be used as a nickname for her.
When I told my parents about the name we chose for the baby, they had quite a few choice words for me. For a bit of background, my parents are religious (not to the extreme but enough that it dictates a lot of things for them) and they are kind of traditional. My dad hated the name, saying that I was naming our daughter after a demon. I told him why I was naming her Lilith and he asked why I couldn’t just name her Lilly since we were using it as a nickname anyways. I refused and just ended the conversation because I knew I wasn’t going to get anywhere with him.
I went a few weeks without bringing up the name again to my parents because I knew the conversation would just go the same way if I brought it up again. About 2 weeks went by and I officially made our gender reveal post on Facebook for our friends and family to see which included the name we chose. In those 2 weeks we also decided on her middle name. We decided on Marie because my fiancé’s mother’s name was Maria and I have an extremely close friend with the middle name Marie.
Not even an hour later I got a phone call from my dad and he was livid. My dad had seen the post I made on Facebook and it wasn’t even the first name he was mad about anymore. It was her middle name. For context, my mom adopted me and isn’t my biological mother. My dad said that my biological mother’s middle name was Marie and he couldn’t stand being reminded of her. I never even knew her middle name, only her first name, so that was new to me. I told him again why we chose that name, and I even mentioned my best friend (he knows I’ve been friends with her since I was a little kid) saying that her middle name was also Marie. I told him to get over it because that was the name we chose and if he didn’t like it then that was his problem.
It’s been about a month since the argument with me and my dad about the name, and with the baby almost here (I’m due in June) I feel like the name is still perfect, but my dad still resents it, though he’s not making huge arguments anymore (mainly side comments about the name). He did the same thing for my son’s name because he wanted me to name him Anakin (from Star Wars) and I said no.
So AITA for what I am going to name my daughter?