My husband (39M) is turning 40 in 2 weeks. I (30F) wanted to take him out to dinner and buy him a gift to celebrate the occasion. He knew I was planning something for his birthday and he’d given me a gift wish list, but he didn’t know the details. I had been subtly (or so I thought) fishing for information throughout the week so I could make sure I planned something he truly liked for his milestone birthday.
A few days ago, I finally settled on a nice restaurant set inside a supercar showroom because he’s always loved cars, but as I was looking up the menu online, I caught him peering at my screen over my shoulder. I’m not even remotely interested in cars, so when he asked if that’s where I was taking him for his birthday, I had to admit that it was.
Today, I told him I had to go out and pick up something. He asked where I was going, I answered. He asked me why, and when I couldn’t give him a straightforward reply, he quickly figured out that I was picking up his gift and what it was.
He started getting really upset and called me dumb for not being able to plan his birthday properly. He said I “ruined” his birthday, and sarcastically asked what the point was in “surprising” him when I’d been asking him questions all week, not even trying to hide what I was planning. That he was sick of the questions, and that he might as well have just thrown his own birthday at this point (never mind that I was the one who actually booked, pre-ordered and pre-paid for the meal and the gift).
So AITA for being terrible at keeping secrets and spoiling his surprise?