My (M20) best friend (let's call him Jack, M20) got a girl pregnant when he was 16 and in the end both families decided he'd take care of the baby as long as they don't bother the girl about it.
From what I understand, they made that deal because the girl didn't want to abort but also didn't want to take care of the kid, and my friend's family didn't want the baby to go into adoption. They "punished him" by making him take care of the baby by himself. They helped him financially until he finished high school, but the parenting job was supposed to be done by him alone.
I have always helped my mom with my younger siblings and I like kids overall, so I offered my help. My friend happily accepted and I've been helping him with Liam (Jack's son) ever since.
Jack's parents have been alright with me helping him, but ever since I came out last year they've been clearly more rude towards me. His mom even told me I shouldn't help Jack with the kid when his dad is at home cause "the image bothered him".
Jack has noticed the change in treatment too and asked me if it would be alright with me if he and his son moved into my apartment. We discussed it and came with the conclusion that moving with me benefited everyone involved. Last night I stayed for dinner so Jack gave the news there, and it wasn't taken very well.
Jack's parents accused me of overstepping. They said they're thankful of the help I gave Jack the first years, but that I have taken it too far and that it was time for Jack to find a partner to raise Liam with, instead of keeping me involved this much in their lives. Jack told me to not worry about what they said, but I can't help but be bothered by it.
AITA? I've always considered myself just a good friend lending a hand but maybe I indeed went too far? I don't think so but I want other opinions