A little background - my (31M) wife (30F) and I have been married for a few years now, together for over 10. We have no kids and have made the decision to not have any (dog and cat are our spoiled children). We both have good careers going, we own a home, and live a pretty comfortable life. She works in healthcare has been wanting to get a travel position in her field. This means really good money but she'll be taking contracts in other cities for a few months at a time. Her shift could range from five 8's, four 10's, or three 12's. It just depends on the needs of the different hospitals. She recently had a good offer for a five 8's position in a city that's a few hours away. She told me if she took this she would stay in a hotel during the week. So we'd only see each other on weekends. I am not comfortable with this. We previously discussed the travel thing and while I don't want her to go at all, I also don't want to roadblock career opportunities for her. So we settled on that she wouldn't seek out a five 8's contract. We're not in dire straits financially so it's not like she has to take the first thing that comes along. But she seems to really want this position as it pays very well, more than other positions she's come across. It also gives her an opportunity to experience working in a different environment in a new city.
My biggest reason though and I'm wrestling with thoughts that this is selfish - I have struggled with mental health the past year or so. I've had depressive spells, daily anxiety, among other things. I've been seeing a therapist and I'm trying to get into a better headspace. My wife is 95% of my support system. I am not super close with my family and I don't have many friends to go to on my bad days. I look forward to evenings with my wife after work when we can relax with our girls (cat and dog ❤️), spend time together, and just decompress. I need that. I honestly don't know how I'll handle it if she's gone for the majority of each week.
I am not saying "no you cannot travel for work". I am just not comfortable with her being gone 5 days a week. I've laid out my concerns to her, but she still wants to talk about her taking this position.
AITA for not wanting my wife to take certain travel jobs?