Throwaway and fake names.
My (24m) friend Adam (24m) is getting married in just under a week and I'm in his wedding. Adam and his soon to be wife Stephanie (25f) have both admitted planning has been really stressful for them and they really want to avoid any last minute surprises if they can.
I was talking about being in the wedding at work and my coworker Jimmy (32m) immediately asked if they needed a photographer. Jimmy is trying to get into freelance photography and build a portfolio, so he's looking to take any opportunities he can.
I told him I'd have to ask Adam, but I know he does. In fact, Adam and Stephanie were lucky enough to get one of the best photographers in town for a pretty significant discount thanks to a family connection.
First thing in the morning the next day, Jimmy texted me asking if Adam told me whether or not he could come to the wedding and take photos. I told him they had a photographer whom he was paying for, and Jimmy then told me he didn't plan to take the photographer's place, he would just plan to work alongside the photographer shoot highlights for free to build his portfolio, and then Adam and Stephanie could keep all the photos.
I told him while it would otherwise be a great offer, the wedding is under a week away, so I would feel uncomfortable asking Adam if Jimmy could come volunteer alongside the photographer he already paid for.
Now Jimmy's really upset, saying I'm "not being supportive of a single dad's small business". I do feel bad for him, but I don't want to add to Adam and Stephanie's plate this close to the wedding.
There are a few things I should point out:
1. Adam and Jimmy don't know each other at all.
2. Jimmy and I are just acquaintances, we don't talk all that often.
3. Jimmy has never done wedding photos before.
Reddit, AITA?