I have 3 children (Gabe 16F, 14M and Leah 7F).
Gabe decided to go vegan 4 months ago and it's been a pretty rough transition, everyone eats meat for every meal and I've had to make adjustments for her.
Some points to explain:
1. On birthdays, the person chooses the restaurant for everyone to go that Day.
2. Leah idolizes Gabe, she is very attached and sees her sister as a hero.
3. Leah always accepts Gabe's vegan experiences just to have moments with her.
For Gabe's birthday, she chose a vegan restaurant and honestly, only my husband enjoyed the experience. Leah hated every moment of the experience (she told me later), but she ate it all just to make Gabe happy.
Monday was Leah's birthday and she chose a steak house.
Gabe came to talk to me about it and that she wouldn't feel comfortable in that place. She said she wouldn't go to the restaurant and asked if I could help.
I tried to propose that we go to a vegan restaurant to get something for her, but that didn't seem to convince her. So I was sincere, saying that she could commit one day to someone who loves her so much and is always willing to eat vegan things with her, but if that was her decision, Leah would be heartbroken if she didn't go and that I don't know if I could improve the situation tbh.
She ended up agreeing to go and I bought her a vegan meal.
Yesterday she was distant with me and when I asked her to talk to me, she said that I was almost emotionally blackmailing her saying all those things and that she was feeling bad, she went because of this.
I really was honestamente about the situation, but maybe I overstepped the line.
AITA?