I (27F) am getting married to my lovely fiancé (31M) this summer. I have a daughter from a previous partner, Hannah 8F and my fiancé has a son Riley 10M.
Hannah and Riley are the reason my fiancé and I started dating eachother all those years ago. They became best friends in their swimming class a few years ago and my fiancé and I met like that. For this reason, we've decided to try and incorporate them into the wedding somehow in age appropriate roles that will be easy for them.
My fiance's mother has always hated me. She thinks I'm gross for having been a teen mom and she believes her son deserves someone better (i.e a virgin). As you can see, she's very sexist. She thinks I'm an unchaste whore here to ruin her son which is extremely ironic because I was actually married to my daughter's father when she was conceived and he he left during the pregnancy but my fiancé had a shotgun wedding to his son's mother when she was 2 months pregnant.
I was at my fiance's house yesterday and we were talking about what role we could put his son in for the wedding. My fiance's mother popped in unexpectedly. She asked about what we were discussing. Fiancé told her we were finding a role for his son in the wedding and he said that my daughter was going to be a flower. She responded by saying my daughter should be kept away from the ceremony because otherwise everyone will know he's marrying a 'used woman'. She said it in a different language but I still understood. I saw red and started shouting at her. I've tried to be respectful for YEARS and I had enough. I told her that she was banned from the wedding and my fiancé kicked her out his house.
We're both being bombarded with texts and calls saying that we're wrong for banning her and people specifically asking me to let her come because they know my fiance will keep her banned until I say so. They keep saying that watching your child get married is a beautiful thing and I'm depriving her of that because his first wedding was a mess. I'm starting to feel like I should unban her. AITA?