I 23F am getting married in 2024 to my amazing fiancé 27M. I have told my family and fiancé that I do not want to invite my biological dad to our wedding due to the hate he has for my mother.
For context when I was 3 years old, my parents split up and have never had a civil relationship. My “dad” used to bug our house/phones and car to find out where my mother would go with her friends and show up at the places that she went to. He used to get my brother to follow her places too. Straight up stalker vibes.
He has never really been in my life other than every second weekend when he would get his visits with me but even then I would go and stay at friends houses just so he could go out and get drunk with his friends.
Around the holidays of 2022 my dad called me with no warning sounding really depressed, asking to see me which I agreed to. Myself and my fiancé had organised to go for lunch with him and all he could talk about was my mother and how much he didn’t like her and how she took all his money to pay for me.
My mother is my best friend and she has an amazing partner who I refer to as my father(stepdad). He will be walking me down the isle.
I’ve had a few people tell me that I should let my bio dad know that he won’t be attending but I know if I talk to him he may guilt trip me into letting him come to the wedding.
AITA for not wanting to tell him about the wedding and not inviting him?