I, a 29-year-old female, got married in 2021. Residing on a small island during the pandemic the government was very strict and was on part lockdown.
A little backstory, I lost my mother to cancer as soon as I went abroad for studies. Once my mother passed, it was just the two of us ( my dad and I who are like besties). I was lucky enough to have spent some quality time with my mother before she passed. After the funeral, all the family members decided that they would ghost my dad and me for years ( about 10 years). Being 19 when I lost my mother, I was completely shattered and the responsibility of caring for my dad fell on me. Years passed, and a high school boyfriend and I reconnected, after being on and off for about 12 years.
After years of back and forth, we both realized that we reached a point where we could no longer live without each other and decided to tell our parents that we want to tie the knot. Both of our parents were extremely happy for us and gave us all support you would expect from parents. We decided it was time to set and date and send out invitations for our wedding.
unfortunately, as we were still on partial lockdown the government had given strict permission for weddings, but only for a limited amount of people whose number could not cross 15. The people should include the Indian priest and his assistant, the photographer, and the rest of the guests from both my and my husband's family.
My husband and I always wanted a small wedding with just the closest people who have always supported us through everything. My father asked me if I would consider inviting family members from my mother's side to the wedding, without any disrespect to my father's question I answer that I had no intention of celebrating the most important day of my life in the presence of people who never bothered and still do not bother to check in whether I ever needed anything or how I was doing.
A couple of days after the wedding, it came to the attention of the family that I had gotten married and did the full 1-week Indian style wedding and they were not invited. As revenge, my cousin (a 27-year-old female at the time) who was next in line to get married got a hold of my photographer/videographer and copied my wedding A-Z from the clothes to the make-up and hair, to the video-filmed poses exactly the same.
Me being proud of my unique wedding with my dream man, did not give in to the temptation of starting or adding the already huge family drama ignored everything, and just moved on with my life with my husband. Only for them to contact him and act the victim and blame me for everything that has happened in the family. My husband knowing the truth supports my decision of just making the only important and relevant people in our lives to be just our parents.
AITA for standing my ground and not inviting them to our wedding and not giving them details of what is happening in our lives and not reacting to the drama and the rumor they still putting out there for the world to see?