i’m going to preface this by saying i’m fifteen and autistic so not in school. also say that this behavior has been going on for a while.
i was having a not good day sensory wise so far, so in the car i wanted to put my headphones in so i told him but he kept waving his hand in my face and talking to me through my headphones. he talked about how he drives me places and does all the things for me but i don’t ever talk to him. he then said that he’d really appreciate since he does all these things for me that i’d play music through the car speakers and talk to him, which i did because i felt kinda bad but it was not pleasant.
when i got home i got ready to go see a movie with one of my friends and his mom. i hung out with him at his house for an hour after and SD texted me and told me to text him when i was heading back.
i forgot to text him and when i got back, i passed SD in the laundry room.
he stopped me and said why didn’t you text me?
i told him i forgot because i did, and he said that i always forget things.
i said that’s because of my adhd sorry
and he said stop using your adhd as an excuse, we need to find a fix for this.
at this point he was raising his voice and getting up in my face a bit
i said that there isn’t a solution to my disorders and that he does not know what it’s like to have the things i do
i was in my room and he was at the door way trying to push his way into my room after i said i don’t want to talk about this right now
i’ll mention that SD had brain cancer and survived it but it damaged his frontal lobe and amygdala
after i said about him not knowing what it’s like he brought up his brain cancer and physical therapy which i asked him how is this related to the topic at hand
and he repeated “that’s not fair” a few times before going into their room
i told SD i was going outside to call mom. i went outside and told her about the situation and she said she would call SD
after i went back inside to pack up my stuff to go to my dads, SD came in the room, shut the door behind him and put his phone on my desk with my mom on call
i told him i didn’t want to talk to him right nowand to please leave my room.
he started telling me that none of the stuff i was saying was true and that i can’t leave and that i have to talk to him over and over
eventually he said that i have to talk to him and he’s the adult here. eventually he left.
i then had a panic attack then my dad came to pick me up
next day me and my mom went for mexican food and talked about it
i read her texts with SD and he was telling her this was her fault because she didn’t support him enough, and that she’s making me see him as a monster. he said that this is not the way a loving and supporting wife would treat him
I’m really mad at him for the way he treated my mom. where i don’t want to forgive him for fear he will do it again. also he did this before twice but not to this level.
AITA?