Me and my sister have a rough relationship since January of last year. She’s been incredibly disrespectful to me since I miscarried at the end of my first trimester after an injury. She became pregnant several months after that & I was happy for her but she quickly started saying things about how she’s excited to have the first living biological baby & pretending mine never happened. She delivered her baby two months early & I’ve seen the baby once.
I am disabled since my injury so I struggle with grip. Everyday is different, some days I can pick up my stepsister’s seven year old & other days I can’t even hold my phone. My bio sister doesn’t understand this & thinks I’m being mean & punishing her daughter because I lost mine. This is not the reason at all. My niece is so small and weighed only 5lbs at two months when I saw her. This was a day where I was struggling heavily with my grip. My sister asked me repeatedly to hold her baby while we were both at my moms & I refused. Each time I said I don’t feel comfortable because I’m worried I will drop her. At one point she came up to me with my niece & tried to force the baby onto me. I backed up & told her no. She was really whiny that I refused to hold her baby even after I explained it was a safety hazard to my niece. She has since told extended family that I’m being an AH because I’m refusing to be involved with my niece’s life due to the loss of my pregnancy. They are all calling me selfish & said I need to move on & just hold my niece. When I explain why I didn’t hold her they tell me I could atleast try to see what happens. I don’t want to risk hurting my niece especially since she is so small but they all think I should just try it out. My brother is the only person who understands why I didn’t hold her everyone else just thinks I’m an AH. AITA for refusing to hold my niece?