I (F, 24) am a very energetic person. I have a lot of energy and know that sometimes I can come off as too energetic.
Most days when I come home, I like to share how my day went and just vent to my sister (F, 20) about my day and she does the same since we live together. We talk about things that happened that make us angry or that we found funny. When I share about my day, my sister kind of ignores me or doesn’t really pay attention but when she shares about her day, I’m always listening and giving input/comments about it and discussing with her.
Recently she was on the phone with my mom and I stopped by to say hi and tell her something that happened in my day. Then my sister tells my mom that I am always blabbering about my day to her and am always constantly talking that sometimes she just zones out. I couldn’t believe her and how she was just exaggerating to my mom.
I understand how sometimes I can get really excited when talking about my day but I’m not constantly telling her about my day when I get home. It’s only for a small portion when we get home and unwind that we talk about our day, and afterwards we either talk about other stuff or go off and do our own things. I always listen to her about her day even when I may not be feeling the best or as interested, but I always make sure that she feels heard and that I’m paying attention.
I brought this up to her and told her that I didn’t like how she exaggerated and that she just ignores me while I pay attention to her. If she’s not in the mood to listen to me about my day, I’d rather have her tell me and I’ll stop than to have her blatantly ignore me and then act as if I’m always the one annoying her by telling her about my day when she does the same. I get that she may not have the same kind of energy that I have, but is it too much to ask for her to not portray me as some kind of annoying pest that she has to put up with?