For sake of my own safety you can call me Argie, I’m 22 and I live in the south. Over the last week I’ve decided to end and break my relationship with my father.
For some background I grew up with just him, my birth mother left when I was a year old to party, sleep around, and so drugs, came back when I was 9 lied about her recovering and spent the next 3 years beating me and using me to make herself look far better. It wasn’t until 3 years later where I cut her off and the explanation I gave to my family was bull shit. I didn’t even tell them the real reason until I was 18.
All throughout my child hood though my father was harsh in ALOT of ways. Screamed a shit ton and was hella tough on me, FORCED ME to do physical sports since I’ve always been strong for 10 years and fucked my body up. Was extremely obsessive with me in what I did and choosing my path for me. For context he’s a radical conservative far and beyond. He tracked me with my phone he gave me , stalked my social media, and from what I was told he had people follow me all the time. He had beef with my mothers side of the family always tried to demonize them as well. Kept me from many forms of media and games even. (Pokémon for example.)
On the outside to others people said he was great! I should be happy with my childhood but the thing is they only see the base level of who he is , he does nice things from time to time and he uses that as his crutch. Almost like some mega narcissist shit but personally I don’t even know to this day. But when I got in my later teens stuff got far worse. I started feeling different, realized I have same sex attraction, so when I was 15 I told him! He decided to go batshit, took me to counseling at 16 ON MH BIRTHDAY, a religious therapist mind you and when SHE EVEN CALLED HIM OUT saying his treatment of me for this and my whole life is wrong. He then stormed out and left me STRANDED THERE. I was a crying fetal position mess in the parking lot where my elder brother had to come get me. To this day he lies and denies he did that, even with multiple witnesses and proof.
Skip forward to present day, I’ve went through a lot, a hella of a lot of my trauma shit but I’m still here! I’m in college for design I got all A’s, I work 50 hours a week at the same time even, met a nice guy I’m dating from college and he’s great, treats me well , it’s really healthy and fun! I’m not in any massive debt I’m healthier mentally and physically but the issue is my father is still well himself. No change or anything. Mind you in the last 2 years he’s made physical harm threats to me for shit ranging from not liking and wanting to hang with his new wife to not taking up the trash. Hell I pay 500$ in rent witn my shitty job to live in the unfinished basement with no insulation.
After taking to a therapist and others they’ve suggested to me to do what I should’ve done a while ago and end that relationship
AITA? Or am I doing the right thing?