I fear that I was too harsh. My bf can be really pushy with things that he likes and he just won’t let it go when I don’t think something is the best thing ever. Usually I try to set aside my ego and just agree with him cause it makes him happy.
So I have a very specific taste. I like retro things, kitchy things, lots of color etc. Bit like 1960s/70s decor. Usually I find stuff I like at flea markets and my mom has the same taste as me so she often recommends places. I have some plain glasses and plates that I got cheaply, but I replace my things with stuff I like as I find it.
I’ve been looking online for some cool vintage wine glasses, but my boyfriend has a friend who goes to houses of which the owner passed away or abandoned it, and he finds a lot of stuff there. My bf insisted that we’d get crystal glasses from this dude and that I’d love them. I told them that I have a very particular taste and I likely would not, because there’s “good old shit” and “bad old shit” imo. He kept insisting to which I eventually just said, “I probably won’t like them but if it means that much to you then we will keep them.” He didn’t like that answer and I was kind of annoyed but whatever.
Well the friend brought the glasses over the other day and I think they’re hideous. Just these huge tacky crystal things that my bf obviously thinks are very fancy (he’s from a poor country in Eastern Europe). I tried to just move past it but he insists on this being some kind of gift to me. I told him that I didn’t like them when he kept asking me, and it made him really upset. He said they’re expensive antiques and they were free and that I was being ridiculous. He’s now in the other room but I think I hurt his feelings with this.
Idk why I can’t just set aside my pride and let him have this but sometimes it irritates me when I feel forced into something and it makes me act like a child. But at the same time, I don’t like these things and he never cares about our interior and says he likes my style. And I did warn him about it.
TL;DR; AITA for looking a gift horse in the mouth, and making my boyfriend sad? I told him I didn’t want these wine glasses but I feel like he was forcing me to accept them and also admit that I did like them.