I (21f) have been a stripper for about a year now. I’m open about it with people, my family knows what I do, I’m not ashamed of it at all. I was on the verge of being homeless when I started and now just recently I was able to pay my rent for a year.
I have 2 roommates. They know what I do, asked some questions about it in the beginning but they’re very accepting. People in our age group don’t tend to care.
The issue:
I was in the kitchen making myself some dinner when my roommate(also 21f) walked in with her boyfriend. He’s coming to visit for a few days. They started making themselves some food as well so we exchanged some small talk. He asked what I’m studying in school and I told him that I’m taking a break from school for a few months and pretty much just focusing on work. He asked what I do for work and I told him I’m a stripper. He was pretty much like “oh cool” and we moved on.
I finished up and went back into my room to eat. Didn’t think anything of it but I got a text from my roommate later that night. She said she “really didn’t appreciate me telling her bf that I’m a stripper especially dressed the way I was.”
I was confused bc I was wearing shorts and a tank top which is what I literally always wear around the house and I also didn’t know her bf was coming so it’s not like I was planning it out. I told her that I’m sorry she was uncomfortable but i tell anyone who asks what I do because I’m not ashamed of it and I was just wearing what I normally do.
She said that “I should know better than anyone what a male mind is going to imagine when they see a woman wearing revealing clothes who then says she gets naked for money.” Then said that I’m used to seeking out male attention.
I truly didn’t know how to respond and still don’t, the conversation made me pretty uncomfortable and I’ve pretty much just tried to stay in my room the past few days. I am aware that the nature of my job is sexual and I know that some men will “fetishize” me for lack of a better word. So I do understand why she’d be upset about it I just don’t think I did anything directly wrong?