I’m going to try to make this as short as possible but there are a lot of important details lol.
So first I just want to give a little bit of back story:
My boyfriend (27M) and I (25F) have been together for almost 5 years. Our anniversary is next month.
My boyfriend’s brother, Mitch (30M) and his girlfriend, Ashley (29F) have been together for 2 years.
My boyfriend’s other brother, Tom (29M), and his fiancé, Alexis (27F) have been together for over 10 years and they are getting married in Italy this September.
We live in the US.
Alexis and I used to be fairly close, but we had an argument a while back that we never got over. I was pregnant at the time and ended up having a miscarriage and she told my boyfriend’s family that she thought I was lying about ever being pregnant. She still, to this day, swears I lied about being pregnant and when I asked her why she believes that, she said, “I have a masters degree in psychology. I can tell when people are lying.” So for the past 2 years, we have just always stayed civil at family events but we stay out of each other’s way.
When they announced that they were getting married in Italy and it would be a 10 day trip and they expected the whole family to be there, my boyfriend and I were already annoyed because we planned to take a long vacation elsewhere for our anniversary this year. We aren’t able to do both because of money and not having enough PTO at our jobs. But we decided to get over it since it’s their wedding and it’s more important than our anniversary trip.
When we received the wedding invitation, it only said my boyfriend’s name. But on the RSVP website, it gave him an option for a plus one. So I just assumed that it would be the same for my boyfriend’s brother Mitch’s invitation. But his actually said “Mitch and Ashley” on the invitation and the website.
So my boyfriend asked Tom why my name wasn’t on there but Ashley’s was, and Tom said there must have been some kind of mistake with the company they used for the invites. But he told my boyfriend that I was invited too.
Then a few weeks later, Mitch and Ashley told my boyfriend and I that Alexis told them she purposely did not put my name on the invitation because she doesn’t like me and she thought it would be funny.
I feel like that’s a really immature and petty thing to do and I don’t want to spend thousands of dollars on a 10 day trip to Italy for someone’s wedding who disrespects me like that.
WIBTA for not going?
I hope this is enough info! Please feel free to ask any questions :-)