This is my first post, so please be respectful even if you disagree.
I (29F) live 4 hr plane ride from my parents..meaning i see them few times a year. My Mother likes to have her way even in the little things. Growing up she would make me try things i am not comfortable with or eat things i don't want.. i guess because she sees life different than me. ie on the food stuff: i enjoy eating bread only. She would insist i add something to it to the extend of shouting until i refuse to eat anything which then clearly would escalate more. After this escalation she would go upset to her bed until i go to ' apologies ' to her. Now don't get me wrong she is a Mother and i do recognize she did her Best really and i became a good person in general (said by other ppl).
Fast forward to today...she still has the same behavior and would not listen to understand why I don't like things or wish not to do something and she kept pushing me (over some days) to do a lasic eye surgery until i clearly told her she does not listen to me nor take me seriously when i say i don't want to. to which she responded she wants me to do it for my own good. THIS is where I got kind of rude with an aggressive tone and said she wants me to do it for her not for me and repeated myself about her not listening to me or even trying to.
Now she is upset with me and won't talk to me. So AITA for confronting her? Any suggestions how to deal to not lose my own peace of mind and get aggressive again?
Thanks for reading my story.