I (18F) have had a bank account since I was 10, and my parents managed to put in around £1500 before I got my part time job and since then, I have managed to save up an additional 2K. They usually borrowed money from me and paid me back accordingly, but lately they have been borrowing very high amounts and haven’t paid it back up until now. I didn’t mind it before because the amount they borrowed have always been below £1500 (the amount they put in themselves and I felt they were entitled to it), but they have borrowed 2k now. The first time was to buy some luxury brands, and the second time was related to the new apartment we are moving into. I’ve reminded them once about the amount they owed, but they sounded angry and offended when they explained that they are waiting for their friend (who was going back to our home country) to come back with the money they gave to my relative for safe keeping.
I’m ok with that, but I don’t want to lend them anymore money because I am going to be moving to another country for university and the very reason why I am saving up is so that I am able to sustain myself when I am away (and to have a sum of money with no strings attached). But i feel guilty for denying them money. It’s not like i had to pay for my necessities, or for any of the extracurricular activities i participated in while growing up. They even said they will support me when I’m away for university, but I’m afraid they will fall short on that promise since they are still borrowing money from me. Where would they get the money from? Especially with the cost of living rising and the fact that the rent for our new apartment is higher.
I’m afraid that them supporting me would make them think that it can replace the 2k they have borrowed(which of course can be acceptable, but I would rather have the money).
Anyways, AITA if i deny them any more money given the situation ?