I am a 19 year old girl and my brother is 17. He told me he was gay a couple of months ago and I 100% support him and am an ally to the community. Our parents are not as excepting but they are definitely not homophobic either. My whole family is fairly religious and we live in a smallish town. So he has began to confine in me about his crushes since he doesn’t feel he can tell anyone else, most of his friends go to our church. So I NEVER wanted to tell anyone but I kind of had to when he told me about the guy he is talking to online. He is a 20 year old guy and KNOWS my brother is only 17 but still sends him inappropriate messages. I told my brother that it was creepy but he insisted it wasn’t a big deal and he was one of the only friends he had. I decided not to push the issue until I looked through my brother computer and found out he was planning to meet up with the guy!! I thought it over and realized had to tell my parents what was going which meant outing my brother. Of course I felt bad but I knew they wouldn’t kick him out of anything like that. When he got home from school after I told him they yelled at him because he is with an older person not because he is gay but my dad did call insult him. They argued for a while and he had his phone and computer taken away. I feel bad especially since he won’t talk to me and it’s been almost a week because he says I outed him but I only wanted to keep him safe, I would do the same if he was with an older women. So AITA?
Edit: I should clarify I talked to my brother first and then said he would stop talking to him and became more closed off after that.
I also do not know if this guy if actually 20 they met on a sketchy sight.
He’s also sent my brother inappropriate things and is trying to convince my brother to send stuff when my brother say he only wants to be friends. We live in a christian conservative area and I think he’s claiming to be his friend to manipulate my brother into doing things he’s not comfortable with.