I (40F) had my daughter (22F) with a man I knew briefly as a naïve teenager and have barely seen since. The relationship only lasted for a few months, but in that time he was horribly abusive to me. I left before my daughter was born and swore she'd never meet her father.
When my daughter was 18, she left my home of her own accord over religious differences between the two of us. I was sad to see her go, but made it clear that if she leaves I won't let her move back in. She left anyway, saying she had to do what was right. Our contact has been spotty since then.
A few days ago, she contacted me for the first time in almost a year. She said she had met her biological father in the time we'd been practically no contact, and had ended up being forced to move in with him due to having nowhere else to go. Surprise surprise, he treated her the exact same way he'd treated me.
She'd gotten away and is in a much better situation now, but she said she still wanted to see me. She said that she's having trouble coping with what happened to her and wanted to talk to me, as she feels I'm the only one who could understand what she'd been through.
I told her under no circumstances would I have that kind of discussion with her. She chose to live with him despite my warnings, and I've done nothing but try to put that chapter of my life behind me. I don't want to reopen old wounds by discussing it with my daughter. If she was still living with him it would be a different story, but she got out on her own and is fine now.
She hasn't taken my response well. She keeps trying to contact me, even though I've made myself and my boundaries clear. AITA?