My partner and I (m32 and f37) recently moved into a huge 5 bedroom house.
My partner created a game room/office. He spends a lot of time there.
Yesterday I come home from work after a draining day, wanting to relax.
He says he wants to move things around in the living room. I love rearranging furniture.
He says he wants to move things so he can have his ps5 in the living room since I said I want him downstairs more and this will make me happy. I say, no I want to spend time together and I don't think I'll be able to relax and unwind if I struggle to hear the tv over his talking and shooting guns etc.
He gets agitated saying that I say no to everything, that I want everything my way. He says when we moved in everything was put how I want it and he never gets any input. He also says he doesn't even bother discussing with me what he wants because then I'll make it a conversation instead of just going along with it.
I was hurt by this because I felt we had made the decisions together and we were creating a lovely home. Together. I feel he makes a mockery of my life and excitement I've had decorating together when I find out all along he hated it and feels I'm someone who says no to everything. I really don't believe that's true.
I walk off because I don't feel he's listening. He keeps saying that this is what I want, that I have asked him to put his ps5 in the living room. He won't listen when I say I would rather not, but seems to insist he knows better what I want?
When I come back he's moved everything around. I don't hate what he's done, I think it has potential, and say this. But he's also taking his massive bulky desk into the living room along with a 50 inch TV for his setup that's now right next to the sofa
I say that I don't feel this part will work.
He says I'm being extremely unfair and why can I do what I want in the living room and he cant? I don't agree with this attitude. To me, a living room is a communal area for us to hang out together, to unwind, watch a film, etc. We have 5 bedrooms, he can make a game room. I suggest I create a living space for myself so I have somewhere I can relax, but this makes him more angry.
He goes on to compare me to his gaming friends' girlfriends/wives, saying why are they perfectly happy for their partner to play in the living room yet I have to be like this.
1. They may have no other option - not everyone is as privileged with space as us.
2. They may not be "perfectly happy" but his gaming friends most likely don't discuss this with their partner for everyone to hear.
He ended up storming off saying that he will stay in his room and he hopes I'm happy now and I can have the whole house to myself. I don't want that at all, I just want to be able to have a normal, nice living room when we are fortunate enough to have so much space.
AITA for saying I don't want his game setup in the living room when he has an actual game room?