For some context, I’m 19F and happily wedded to my husband (22M). We moved in together after I’d left a toxic household from my parents. I’ll give this friend in question the name, “Sara”.
So I became really close to Sara sophomore year of HS, which happens to be around quarantine. I kept in touch with Sara throughout and grew closer over the year.
In senior year, I met my current husband (Dylan) through a mutual. I got into a messy situationship and started pushing everyone away because I just wanted to be left alone.
Eventually, I started to open up to Dylan about how distraught a recent situationship left me, and we became good friends. On top of that, family drama was too much. I was relieved to have someone supporting me during these hard times. There was just something about the way he’d comfort me. We shared some hobbies like reading and cooking and I started to see the light in Dylan. I just knew he was the one I wanted. We became official after two months of knowing each other.
At this point, it was mostly me texting Sara first, but we remained good friends. Sara never really liked Dylan because he was “immature” “racist” and “sexist” for some things he has said, which I found trivial since he was joking around like many guys.
One day, Sara and Dylan got into a heated argument on the phone, exchanging some nasty remarks. This put a lot of strain on our friendship, but I successfully persuaded Sara to apologize for some hurtful comments.
I later moved in with Dylan and befriended many of his family, friends, and coworkers, and started to appreciate life again. His family became mine.
Sara opened up about her mental health struggles and started to asked to hang out, but without Dylan. She exclaimed how she missed me and how I’m always with Dylan. This soon escalated into to an even larger fight which caused a rift in our friendship. She brought up how I would prioritize relationships over our friendship and would completely ignore her. I expressed how agitated I was when Sara would make it awkward while in the same room, to Dylan. Her clinginess also became too overwhelming and felt like she didn’t respect our relationship. Maybe she didn’t have many friends so felt lonely. I also believe she doesn’t understand how much energy relationships require. I just want Sara to put her differences aside and to try to make peace with Dylan, which she refused. I defended Dylan and called her jealous since we’re so much more closer.
We stopped talking as much and I grew exhausted in dealing with her problems, which Dylan advised me to let her go. She had her own battles to attend to and needed to get her life together. I gave her space and time and figured we’d outgrown each other. I refrained from replying to her texts and gave short replies.
Today, I’ve just noticed that she’d removed me on all social media. I asked my friends what they think, to which they responded “the trash took itself out”.