Some background: Hannah(26F) and I(25F) have been best friends for 4 years. She is still studying full time where as I have been working for the last few years while we have had this friendship. It’s become the norm for me to pay for both of us when we go out and do something together because she obviously doesn’t have money as she’s not working at all. Let me just say that I have never minded this dynamic and I always let her know that I am okay with paying for her.
Last night she texted me asking to make plans and saying that she would love to see me and spend time with me as it’s been a few weeks since we have seen each other. She also lets me know she doesn’t have any money but would love to go do something with me. She tells me that she doesn’t have a lift home or money for Uber so I told her I would pay for us at the bar and I would gladly her home afterwards.
I wait around for about 2 hours for her to let me know she’s ready and we finally meet at the bar. Once we get inside she casually lets me know she invited a guy she has been talking to (this was their first time meeting) and that he is sitting waiting at a table for her by himself. Of course this confused me because why would she not mention this earlier? I didn’t say anything to her until later in the evening after I had been paying for everything and awkwardly sitting there third wheeling between them. I told her I felt a bit used and it seemed like she only invited me because she needed me to fund her date. We ended up getting into an arguement so I decided to leave and go home. I told her to find her own way home and walked out.
This morning I woke up to a text from one of our mutual friends telling me I’m an AH for leaving her at the bar knowing she didn’t have a lift home. I do feel bad because maybe I should have taken her home instead of leaving her there.
AITA?
Edit for extra info: Her cousin dropped her off at the bar and I drove in my own car.