I (F29) met 'Will' (M30) six years ago when I moved into a new apartment close to university. He was my next door neighbour, and offered to help me put together flat pack furniture. We really hit it off, and have been together ever since.
Will was married right out of high school to someone who was not a very good match. They were young, dumb, and made a colossal mistake. Will recognises now how crazy it was to marry someone at 18, but at the time, they really thought it was a good idea. That being said, the breakup and the fallout was terrible. This was before I met Will, but it sounds like both sides were out to inflict as much pain as possible. Fortunately there were no children or assets, but it was not a smooth process by any means.
Will reached out to his ex-wife relatively recently (about two years ago) to apologise for all the pain he put her through, which I thought was quite nice of him to do. She also apologised for her actions, but both agreed that they did not want to stay in contact. However, coming out of that, Will told me that he has realised he never wants to get married again. This was a surprise to me, but I have never really wanted the white picket fence, so no marriage didn't really bother me. I am happy just to be in a long-term, committed relationship.
Recently, it was my birthday and we had some people over for a BBQ. It was really lovely, but Will insisted we do presents in front of everyone. I haven't ever really done that, but I didn't have any issues with it. Everyone gifted me really sweet and thoughtful items, and it was a blast, until I got to Will's gift. Will had been really bragging about how this was the perfect gift and I had to save the best for last... It was a diamond tipped drill set. To be clear, I do not own a drill and have no interest in anything related to drills.
My face fell, and Will burst out laughing saying that that the joke is that these diamonds are the only diamonds I could ever expect to receive from him. "Get it, because we aren't ever getting engaged?" I was so humiliated! I excused myself and went into the house, and I suppose that everyone left after a while.
Will tried to then give me my "real" present later that evening because "the drill bits were only meant as a joke", but I didn't even open it because I couldn't understand why he was so cruel in front of all my friends! Will says that I am overreacting when I have another gift and I agreed that we wouldn't get married. I feel really hurt and Will doesn't seem to get it, am I overreacting?