**I am NOT OP. Original post by** u/hottestchillipepper **in** r/theotherwoman **and** r/adultery.
Flagged as NSFW for frank sexual discussions which I believe should also prevent mobile spoilers.
Estimated Reading Time: \~5 minutes
trigger warnings: >!infidelity!<
mood spoilers: >!infuriating!<
[**Had an argument with MM and nearly broke it off with him.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/1164gec/had_an_argument_with_mm_and_nearly_broke_it_off/) \- 19 February 2023 (text via [Rareddit](https://www.rareddit.com/r/adultery/comments/1164gec/had_an_argument_with_mm_and_nearly_broke_it_off/))
I took someone's advice and asked Married Man (MM) to call. When he did, I told him that it's no longer possible to be "on call" 24X7 and that meetings at short notice will simply not be possible any more. We can meet up at a prearranged time and place, but asking to meet up in 15 mins and doing it hot and heavy style in his truck (I know, I know. [I posted about car sex and how good it was](https://www.rareddit.com/r/adultery/comments/110xu9z/car_sex_gets_a_ton_of_hate_much_of_it_unjustified/) but a girl is allowed to change her mind.) and be back with barely enough time to process anything was a no-no for me now.
His first reaction was "Wow, okay. You were the last person I expected this from". He then asked "have your girlfriends put you up to this?" and went on about how women get needier and needier over time and how we are basically insatiable when it comes to affection. I retorted that I was human, and I have needs too, but I am not someone who is going to run to him each time he wagged his finger at me. Doing this was fine for a while but it gets old very quickly, and I wanted to take my time and feel good too instead of just rushing about.
He then replied "this is basically the only way we can meet" and "if you have an issue with this you can always walk away" knowing fully well I may not because I have abandonment issues. It took every fibre of my being to come up with enough courage to just say "All right then. Unless we are meeting with plenty of notice exclusively in hotel rooms, I think this is goodbye."
I so should have done this face to face because I wanted to see his face as I said this. On second thoughts, maybe it was best that I didn't because I may not have mustered up the nerve then.
He just said "okay, then" and ended the call. I don't know what to do now.
[**He called and showed who he really is. I broke it off.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/theotherwoman/comments/11ajes7/he_called_and_showed_who_he_really_is_i_broke_it/) \- 24 February 2023
After our previous conversation where he pretty much said that I could walk away if the current arrangement (meeting up in his truck for a quickie) was not working for me, I proceeded to do just that. I did not block him but did not call or text or reach out in any other way. I kept myself busy, took up a new hobby, and begged a therapist to begin sessions. I guess that must have worked because he called a few hours ago, and asked me if I wanted to meet this weekend. I said yes and asked if he had made the booking just as he did a couple of weeks ago, and he said no - we can meet up in my truck.
I said I made it clear to him the last time we spoke - I will meet him only in hotel rooms. No more car sex for me. He then said it was just going to be this one time as he is running late, and that he will make a "full-fledged reservation next time" and dangled the carrot of an all-nighter. I said no - it has to be an all-nighter now, or nothing else.
That is when he showed his true colours. I was stunned at what he said next.
"You do realise that I see you only because (his wife's name) does not do anal and that you are tighter than her, right? If you had a kid, you would be pretty much sailing in the same boat as she is, saggy boobs and all."
Those were his exact words. I mean, close to his exact words but that was precisely what he conveyed. It took all my strength not to scream at him, but I took a deep breath and told him it was over, and that he could find someone else. I also asked him not to attempt to contact me again. And I blocked and deleted his number.
That's it, then. I dodged a bullet with this one. And I am on the prowl. Is anyone looking for a gal who is into anal, does not have saggy tits, and is tight down there? Hmu.
[**Ex-MM tried to weasel his way back into my life, and I have lost a friend as a result.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/theotherwoman/comments/11ckxii/exmm_tried_to_weasel_his_way_back_into_my_life/) \- 26 February 2023
My ex-Married Man (MM) wormed his way back into my life. Even after I blocked him and deleted his contact information and informed him in no uncertain terms that it was over, he found a way in.
My ex-MM and I were co-workers before I switched jobs a few months ago. While we were in the same office, we used to hang out with one woman all the time, I am going to call her Megan. She is also in my social circle and is roommates with my childhood friend (let's call her Jessica) and she knew about my affair with him. He used Megan to get to me. She called me up last night and basically chatted about nothing for a few minutes and then said 'Hey I just ran into (his name). You wanna say hi?' and before I could say no I heard his voice telling me how sorry he was, how he was beating himself up for being a dick to me the other day, and if I wanted to meet. When I said no and told him I am hanging up, he said that he had booked a room for the two of us for next weekend in the best hotel in the city, a five-star hotel that has a spa as well.
I hung up and texted her not to pull that stunt on me again. She replied that it wasn't how it looked and that they had just run into each other when she was walking around in the mall. He HATES malls and thinks that they are a waste of space, so I knew she was lying. And she called back in a few minutes and we argued for a bit. She then confessed that he had been pestering her to help for the last couple of days and that I should give him a chance because he "really is repentant". That made me laugh, ngl. And when I mentioned the various things he called me the last time we spoke, she just said "I am sure he did not mean it" and that I should be flattered for getting this much attention from a "gorgeous man who is so well put together" and even said "if you don't give this a chance I am jumping in with both feet".
I then said that she could have him all she wanted, and to pass a message to him - if he tried to get in touch again, I am going to tell his wife everything. I don't care what his wife thinks of me, I will totally spill the beans, I said. She then hung up, and a little while later I received a call from Jessica telling me that I did the right thing and that she was going to ask Megan to leave and look for another place - not just because of the stunt Megan pulled, but for other issues as well and this stunt was basically the last straw.
Looks like Jessica spoke to Megan sometime between late last night and this morning, because I received an irate call from Megan an hour ago accusing me of poisoning Jessica's mind against her and that she had 30 days to look for a new place, that I was a slut, and so on. I listened for a few minutes, cut the call and blocked her too.
Bottom line - I might be moving in with Jessica soon.
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